Cat Lantigua is Transforming Solitude Into Sisterhood

Photograph Courtesy of Cat Lantigua

Photograph Courtesy of Cat Lantigua

Solitude can be a beautiful thing, it can afford us space to think, listen to ourselves, and find peace. Yet in today's world, where we’re hyper-connected and hyper-isolated at the same time, it seems increasingly less attractive, and at times outright scary.

With this backdrop, ventures that aim to heal isolation and promote connection are exactly what we need, which is why Goddess Council's mission is so important. This organization "serves to create fun and nurturing gatherings within local homes and spaces to begin repairing the wounds of toxic competition and separation within the sisterhood."

Founder Cat Lantigua candidly spoke to Mindful Feminism and shared the story preceding her fabulous creation.

“Your mess is your message,” Cat says as she begins. “I think sisterhood is important because quite frankly I lacked connection and community for a very long time.” Growing up in Miami, more specifically the suburbs of Kendall, Cat often found herself "feeling very alone and isolated.” “For many years I wished I had people who understood me and didn’t know how to find them.”

Upon turning 25 and moving to New York, Cat decided things had to change: “I decided I was going to find my people, I was going to make real friends, and find a group of women who understood and accepted me. I thought ‘ok, I don’t have these people right now, but let me manifest them. What would we do together? What would we talk about?'”

After actually answering each question on paper, Cat decided she'd post her vision online. “I did it as an experiment more than anything else,” she mentions. “I was so desperate to make new friends, that I was open to having strangers come over to my house,” and very soon that’s exactly what happened.

For the first gathering four women showed up, then fifteen, at one point forty, and before she knew it, Goddess Council turned into an organization.

Cat says realizing that, has been one of the biggest challenges until now. “What has been both challenging and interesting is understanding that what I provide for people and the space we’re cultivating is a service. It takes time, effort, and as much as I love it, it’s something that I have to understand can be valued monetarily, and I shouldn’t undervalue the power of it.”

I know what it feels like to not have a community and that’s why I work so hard to build one for other people -I don’t want anybody to feel like they’re alone in the world.

“I don’t exactly know when this started or what happened but I think that women have been somehow conditioned to be hyper-competitive -we tear each other down quicker than we build each other up, and I want to start to heal that,” she added.

The antidote proposed by Cat is simple and powerful: gathering to form authentic relationships. “I believe we can do this, for example, by sharing things we can all relate to, so we can start to see we’re all very similar. The things we think we’re supposed to be doing to each other are toxic, isolate us, and make us feel disconnected when in reality I've found we all want the same things: acceptance and connection.”

To know more about Cat's incredible effort to create much-needed meaningful relationships be sure to follow @goddesscouncil and visit www.goddesscouncil.org.

*This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.

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