It’s Been a Year!


I am writing this amidst enormous life changes. I just got married, came back from a very long vacation, and moved cities for the third time in the past three years. I'm feeling incredibly overwhelmed and vulnerable. And still, this month marks a year since I began Mindful Feminism, and I can't think of a better time to reflect on the lessons learned and how I see this project moving forward. 

If you've been following me since day one, you probably know this idea floated into my mind while Dr. Christine Blasey Ford was speaking before congress. The emotional toll that came with that situation was a lot (as it frequently has been in the past years since Trump got elected), and that whirlwind of emotions got me thinking that there had to be a better way to embrace feminism while at the same time retaining sanity. To make a long story short, that's when the idea of Mindful Feminism sprouted. I wrote a more detailed essay about this that you can read here. 

Initially, I felt like the best way to go about this project was to settle on one concept, create a brand, a magazine, and publish features, interviews, and the very very occasional personal essay. Because of this, I've had the honor of meeting incredibly inspiring women over the past year, and each one of their stories will be with me forever.

I feel proud of myself for leaping into a completely unknown world like that, but a year into this project, I'm ready to show up in a new way. It may sound odd, but I realize now, that in the past year, I've used the idea of speaking through a brand to make myself smaller. Writing as Mindful Feminism instead of Salomé, and focusing on interviewing other women or telling other's stories instead of my own, served as a set of training wheels that I am ready to take off. 

Like countless women I know, I have spent numerous years believing that my voice alone is not important enough. I have battled endlessly with impostor syndrome, and too many times, I haven't been willing to take up space for fear of being judged as attention-seeking and self-centered. Though I'm still afraid, I'm prepared to walk through that fear, and perhaps fall on my face a few times but continue riding forward in full freedom. Fear will no longer be making the editorial decisions around here.

Moving forward, I will write in first person on this website. I will write about my interests and passions. I will talk a lot more about my opinions and experiences as a Colombian-American woman, lawyer, daughter, sister, wife, and friend. Although I do hope this platform continues to be a space for conversation and collective growth because I have no interest in creating a monologue.  

Clichés are clichés for a reason, and in the past year, I've confirmed that change is the only sure thing, so my guess is the shape of this space will probably continue to morph throughout the years. I just want you to know, dear reader, that whatever those changes may be, I am ready to show up, take up space, and fully claim Mindful Feminism as my own. 

Salome Gomez Upegui